Be Mindful of Your Self-Talk. It’s a Conversation with the Universe
The subconscious mind is the repository of all your experiences, emotions, and memories, particularly those shaped by trauma. Unlike the conscious mind, which is logical and deliberate, the subconscious operates automatically, beneath your awareness, influencing how you think, feel, and act. When trauma occurs, especially early in life, it creates deep, automatic beliefs that become embedded in the subconscious. These beliefs are often powerful and limiting, shaping the way you perceive the world and yourself.
For example, a child who grows up in an environment of neglect or abuse may internalize messages such as “I’m unlovable,” “I’ll never succeed,” or “I’m not safe.” These subconscious beliefs often manifest in the form of negative self-talk, continuing to echo long after the trauma has passed. The child grows into adulthood carrying these wounds, often unaware that the subconscious mind is still operating on the trauma-based programming that was formed years ago.
One of the most insidious aspects of trauma is that it can create a disconnect between reality and perception. You may achieve success, receive love, or find safety, but your subconscious mind, conditioned by the past, may still tell you that none of it is real. This leads to feelings of imposter syndrome, self-sabotage, or emotional numbness.
Why the Subconscious Mind Is So Powerful
What makes the subconscious mind so powerful is that it governs about 95% of your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors — often without you even realizing it. The subconscious mind doesn’t distinguish between what is real or imagined; it simply accepts the beliefs you feed it and acts accordingly. If the subconscious is filled with unresolved trauma, limiting beliefs, and fear-based thoughts, it will direct your life in ways that perpetuate those narratives. You may find yourself repeating toxic relationship patterns, sabotaging opportunities, or feeling unworthy of love and success.
Moreover, because the subconscious operates below conscious awareness, it’s difficult to identify the root of these behaviors. You might consciously desire success and happiness, but if your subconscious mind is programmed with trauma-based beliefs of unworthiness or fear, those desires are constantly undermined.
Self-Talk and the Subconscious: The Language of the Mind
Self-talk, the ongoing internal dialogue you have with yourself, serves as a bridge between your conscious and subconscious mind. Every thought you have, whether spoken aloud or silently in your mind, becomes a directive for your subconscious to follow. If your self-talk is negative — full of doubt, fear, and self-criticism — it reinforces the trauma-based programming in your subconscious.
Your subconscious mind is highly impressionable and accepts the repeated thoughts and beliefs you feed it as absolute truth. When you continually say things like “I’m not good enough” or “I always fail,” your mind hears these statements as commands, and your subconscious goes to work aligning your reality to match those beliefs. This is why patterns of self-sabotage, procrastination, or feelings of unworthiness persist despite your best efforts to break free.
On the flip side, positive self-talk can begin to reprogram the subconscious. While it doesn’t happen overnight, affirming new, empowering beliefs like “I am worthy of success” or “I am enough” can gradually shift the narrative embedded in the subconscious mind. Over time, your subconscious will accept these new beliefs and begin creating behaviors and outcomes that align with them.
The Law of Attraction and Self-Talk: How the Universe Responds
The Law of Attraction (LOA) states that like attracts like — that energy, whether positive or negative, magnetizes experiences of a similar vibration into your life. Simply put, what you focus on, whether intentionally or unintentionally, is what you will attract. Your thoughts, which shape your self-talk, are a form of energy. When you engage in negative self-talk, you emit low-vibrational energy, which in turn attracts experiences that reflect this negativity.
Imagine this: if you constantly tell yourself, “I’ll never be successful,” “I’m always broke,” or “I’ll never find love,” the universe listens. The LOA isn’t about reward or punishment; it’s a law of resonance. The energy you project is the energy that returns to you, like an echo in a canyon. If your mind is filled with negativity and self-doubt, the universe mirrors that by bringing more of the same into your life — financial struggles, unsatisfying relationships, and career roadblocks.
In this sense, your self-talk isn’t just an internal monologue; it’s a conversation with the universe. Your thoughts, both conscious and subconscious, are constantly interacting with the energetic fabric of your reality, shaping the experiences you attract.
Healing Through Conscious Self-Talk and Rewiring the Subconscious
To heal from trauma and create a life aligned with the outcomes you desire, you must first become mindful of your self-talk. When you shift your internal dialogue from negative to positive, you begin to reprogram both your subconscious mind and the energy you emit to the universe. This is why mindfulness and affirmations are such powerful tools for healing and manifestation.
Start by identifying your most common negative self-talk patterns. Do you tell yourself you’re not worthy of love? That you don’t deserve success? Once you’ve identified these limiting beliefs, begin to consciously replace them with affirmations that reflect the reality you want to create: “I am deserving of love,” “I am capable and successful,” “Abundance flows to me.”
As you repeat these affirmations, you’ll notice that your subconscious mind slowly begins to accept them as truth, and your energy shifts. With time, the universe responds by bringing experiences, opportunities, and people into your life that resonate with this new, empowered version of yourself.
